It has taken me nearly all of my adult life to realize that holidays are not about THE FOOD. It is about the people in your life or the absence of those people. I used to gorge myself on the morsels of holiday fare foolishly thinking I would stumble across the "right" combination and I would feel satisfied, full. The happiness I have so long sought, I have always had. I just never realized it before. I mistakenly linked happiness of self with the food it is so often coupled with.
I remember my family life in those holiday foods. How loved I felt, how accepted and wanted I truly was. Sometimes in the process of growing up we forget the things we know about ourselves.
The holidays should be a time of catching up on lives, connecting with a loved one you haven't seen since the last high holidays, enjoying the people in your life even if they tend to get on your last nerve.
This year I am without my mother, sadly she passed away this summer. This year feels strange almost non-holiday like. My older sister has arrived from upstate NY and will be with dad and I but it's just not the same anymore...
Don't forget to tell them that you love them while they can still hear you. Get that hug before you leave. Make a memory to span the ages. Love them for who they are not what you want them to be...enjoy the moments they give you.
I wish you all the happiness of the holidays. May you know just how loved your really are.
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